Hello! My name is Evan, and I’m an Astrophysicist, transgender man, husband, cook, and former Sheltered Evangelical. In an attempt to process and recover from some of the strange parts of my upbringing, I am writing about them in a semi-humorous fashion. This is a list of some of the amusing, strange, painful, and ugly ways that my sheltered and religious early life affected me as a teen and as an adult.
I was home schooled K-12 by my stay-at-home mother. She was an excellent teacher and I received a top-notch education in most things academic. Real-world experience, on the other hand… well, that’s what this blog is about. I don’t want to spoil too much for you. I will say that, although I was socialized with other homeschoolers, I was most certainly not socialized with a heterogeneous group. Middle-class, conservative, Protestant, homeschoolers were my entire social experience.
My religion during my early years was Pentecostal. Full-blown, charismatic, slaying-in-the-spirit, ankle-length-skirts, speaking-in-tongues Pentecostal. Unsurprisingly, we were taught to isolate ourselves completely from modern culture, eschewing television, avoiding any modern music (even Christian rock), dressing in skirts and never cutting our hair and refusing to wear jewelry (for women, obviously), to name a few things.
Sometime when I was a teenager, my parents left the Pentecostal church (ironically, because it was too legalistic) but still held onto much of the conservative doctrine. Purity, patriarchy, cultural isolation, and standards of godliness were still my entire reality. Years after leaving home, I am still trying to make sense of the peculiarities of my upbringing. This blog is my platform to vent, share stories, and perhaps offer some solace to others who have been through similar indoctrination.
Warning: This blog will tackle a lot of awkward subjects like sex, masturbation, developing bodies, etc. If you are easily offended by such things… I have no idea why you’d be reading a blog critical of sheltering. All the same, you’ve been warned.